Being Invited In

Some people use the term “coming out” when they tell others they are LGBTIQA+SB (such as gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans, queer, intersex, or Sistergirl/Brotherboy). But “inviting in” is a safer and more respectful way to think about how someone shares their identity.

Inviting in means the participant chooses if, when, and with whom they share personal parts of their identity. It is not about making a big announcement. It is about building trust over time. Your client is in control of what they share and when.

This is especially important for people who may have had bad experiences in the past, such as discrimination, being ignored, or being judged. It is also important for neurodivergent people and people who are autistic or have a disability, as they may have experienced services that do not understand or support who they are.

As an NDIS provider, your role is to help the participant feel safe, respected, and included.

This means:

Do not ask personal questions about sexuality or gender unless the person brings it up.

Never pressure someone to come out or share private information.

Make sure your service feels safe for people who are LGBTIQA+SB, so they know they can share if they want to.

Use forms and questions that include all kinds of people, like space for pronouns or chosen names.

Do not assume someone’s gender, sexuality, or relationships based on how they look or speak.