Coming out or Inviting in?

What does “Inviting In” mean?

Some people say “coming out” when they tell others they are LGBTIQA+SB (like gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans, queer, intersex, or Brotherboy/Sistergirl).

But “inviting in” is a different way of thinking about it.

“Inviting in” means:

* You do not have to tell everyone everything about yourself.

* You choose who to trust and when to tell them.

* It is your private information, and you are in control.

You invite people in to know about your gender or sexuality when you feel safe.

Why is this important for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people?

For many Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people, gender and identity are connected to culture, Country, and community.

* Some people are Sistergirls (trans women) or Brotherboys (trans men).

* These identities have always been part of many First Nations cultures.

* In the past, people could share who they were through stories, roles, and community, not by “coming out” in a Western way.

“Inviting in” fits better with cultural ways of sharing. It is about relationships, trust, and respect.

Not everyone needs to know everything. You decide who you bring in and when.

This helps protect your safety, your culture, and your mental health.