Expressing your needs

Using “I” Statements

“I” statements help express how you feel without blaming the other person. This reduces defensiveness and opens up communication.

• Example: Instead of saying, “You never listen to me,” try, “I feel unheard when I’m interrupted. I’d appreciate it if I could finish speaking before getting a response.”

Asking for What You Need

• Be clear and specific about your needs.

• Use simple language and examples if needed.

• Practice with a trusted friend or support person if asking directly feels hard.

Real-Life Scenario & Coping Strategy

Alex, a 15-year-old autistic student, needs a quiet space at school but doesn't know how to ask their teacher.

Possible Ways to Cope:

• Write a note or email to the teacher if speaking face-to-face feels too hard.

• Practice the conversation with a friend or family member.